My kids were born five years apart to the day. And while it's not always easy having such a "large age gap" between them, I'm pretty thankful. I mean, yes, having a pre-teen and a kid preparing to go into first grade isn't easy, but there are moments when my kids' age gap seriously saved my life. Are they the best of friends? No. But are they incredible siblings who, more often than not, look out for one another and, in the process, make my life easier? You bet.
I didn't plan on having kids this far apart, to be honest. After years of trying to conceive a second baby, and after two pregnancy losses and so much self-doubt I started to lose hope, my body finally, well, "cooperated." My son's due date coinciding with my daughter's 5th birthday was pure coincidence, and one I wasn't going to turn my nose up at, either. After all, I was just thankful I was able to carry a pregnancy to term and birth a healthy baby.
Caring for a newborn and a preschooler was definitely an adjustment. My daughter was used to being the only child, and while she loves him dearly I think she's still bitter about having to share with her younger brother. Sometimes their best friends, sometimes their bitter rivals, but always they're siblings.And even when I can't see the forest through the trees, I know my kids' age gap has saved my life a time or two.