People, right? By now everyone knows parenting is so, so hard. Every single part of child-rearing is rough. Pregnancy is tough for many, breastfeeding can be torturous at first, and the newborn stage and postpartum feels are often so draining they seem to last forever. Then, we have the terrible twos, the the-answer-is-always-'no' threes, the my-kid-is-suddenly-an-a-hole fours, and oh-my-gosh-is-he-really-going-to-kindergarten fives. But, let's be real, the most difficult part of parenthood is dealing with other people. Because dealing with other people is one of the most difficult parts of life, so why would it be any different in the parenting arena?
I used to think "it takes a village" meant that raising children was so much work that other people needed to be involved and help. It turns out, "it takes a village" means that other people believe they have a say in how you are raising your child and what your child learns. You see, my friends, in school I was always the kid in the group project who wanted to do all the work myself because I knew it would get done. So, when it comes to raising my kids, I want to be the one who does all the work so I know they come out right. That's not too much to ask, right? I mean they are my kids, right? But, it turns out, raising kids in a society is no high school civics project. Turns out, raising kids amongst other people is super difficult because these other people don't exactly care about what parenting style you think works for you. So, sometimes you yield a little.
And when you refuse to yield, as I often do, you fight an eternally difficult uphill battle against all the not-so-wonderful things this world teaches children. You fight against sexism, racism, totally foreign and not at all intuitive parenting philosophies, and various mom labels, so basically every day in parenting is a struggle because of other people. Other people, those who even mean well, are the real struggle of parenting, guys, and here's why: