The moment I realized I was pregnant and decided I wanted to be a mother, I started asking myself a slew of questions. Did I want a hospital birth or a home birth? Would I need to move to a bigger place to make room for the baby? Would I co-sleep or sleep train? The questions were endless. One thing I knew for sure, however, was that I would continue working. Sadly, that meant I would be labeled a "working mom," but there are so many reasons why I can't behind the term "working mom" in any capacity; reasons that, to this day, make me cringe and shake my head.
I love my job. My career is an important part of who I am and a great source of personal pride, fulfillment and exciting challenges that fill me with a sense of immense purpose. I also love my son, and consider him to be another source of personal pride, fulfillment, and exciting challenges that fill me with a sense of immense purpose. I have felt all of the aforementioned in so many aspects of my life, too; my romantic relationships, my friendships, the relationship I have and share with my mother. The list goes on and on. Like every other part of my life, motherhood was a choice that I made for myself. It isn't, however, the only reason I am who I am, nor is it a reason to erase the other parts of me that I so very much love and enjoy and spend time cultivating. That's what happens, however, when society deems it necessary to attach the word "mom" to everything else that I do. Somehow "mom" becomes the most important aspect of my life. It's important, yes. Vital. Monumental. However, it's not the most important. The romantic relationship I share with my parenting partner and the father of my son, for example, is extremely important. My friendships — the relationships that have existed long before I met my partner and birthed my son — are extremely important. Those aspects of my life aren't attached to my choice to have a career, so why should motherhood be?
This is just one of many reasons why I can't get behind the term "working mom." It's why I would be the most happy if we just dropped "mom" from so many other life choices women make. Women who have children and start their own businesses aren't "mompreneurs," they're just entrepreneurs who also happen to have kids. Mothers who write aren't "mommy bloggers," they're just women who blog and also care for another human being. Women can be more than one thing, and even simultaneously, I assure you. So, with that in mind, here are just a few more reasons I think the collective "we" can just do away with "working mom," altogether: