For me, maternity leave was pretty bittersweet. On one hand, I was able to spend my days snuggling with my baby and binge-watching Netflix, but I was exhausted, hormonal, sore, sleep-deprived, depressed, and trying to recover from childbirth while simultaneously keeping a tiny human alive. To make matters worse, my relationship with my partner changed. There are some horrible things your partner will do when you're on maternity leave, and they aren't easy to get past, especially when emotions are high and energy is low.
The first few weeks after childbirth were painful, exhausting, and emotional, so trying to navigate that time with my partner in tow really freaking sucked. He's awesome. He really is, but sometimes he's also insensitive and doesn't think before he speaks. Recovering from childbirth is no joke. It actually takes a lot of energy just to remain upright and keep your baby (and yourself) alive. The last thing you, as a postpartum mom, need is to hear comments about your weight or your body. I also didn't enjoy hearing about his day doing adult things with other adults, while I am stuck at home having conversations with my newborn and cats. Also, never wake a postpartum mom, unless the baby needs something you can't provide or it's actually her turn. Seriously.
I love my husband. He is a great partner and a great dad. Turns out, though, maternity leave is hard to navigate for even the best partners with the healthiest of relationships. The good news is this is perfectly normal. Your partner can't possibly understand what's going on with you, and they are probably tired and stressed out, too. Which explains some of the thoughtless, insensitive, and otherwise horrible things they might do, including the following: