The first few weeks post-birth are painful, exhausting, tense, and emotional. When you try to navigate those weeks with a partner, sometimes they know just what to say to make you feel supported and loved. Other times, well, they just don't. We're all human so we all make mistakes, to be sure, but make no mistake about it: there are things every loving partner never says postpartum.
Recovering from childbirth is no joke. It actually takes a lot of energy just to remain upright and keep your baby (and yourself) alive. The last thing you need is to hear comments about your weight or your body. When you are postpartum, sleep-deprived, and likely doubting your abilities as a mom, you don't need to hear more doubts from someone else, either, and especially not from your partner. It also gets seriously old when your partner tells you the baby is crying every single time the baby happens to make a noise. I mean, if they can hear the baby crying, they are perfectly able to get off their ass and diagnose the problem. Also, never wake a postpartum mom, unless the baby needs something you can't provide, or it's actually her turn. Seriously.
I love my husband. He is a great partner and a great dad. Turns out, though, that even loving partners put their feet in their mouths once in a while. The good news is this is perfectly normal. Your partner can't possibly understand what's going on with you, and they are probably tired and stressed out, too. That said, there are some things they just shouldn't say, including the following: