I would be lying if I told you I liked my postpartum stomach. I sort of hate it, what with it's stretch marks, sagging skin, and scar where my belly button piercing used to me. Everyone tells me should love my "tiger stripes," as if a "cute name" changes everything. Now, I know that my body has done some seriously badass things. I love that, but my postpartum stomach? I just don't want to talk about it. So yeah, when you tell me that you "still like" my post-baby stomach, I want to rage.
First of all, none of my body parts are here for your viewing pleasure, so why should I care what you may or may not like? Plus, saying that you "still like" my postpartum stomach implies that you liked how it looked before, noticed that it's somehow less than perfect now, and feel the need to let me know that, hey, these "negative changes" are OK with you. My body is different, yes, and I don't need a reminder, thank you very much. And while you might mean well or are trying to pay me a compliment, it honestly makes me feel like my body and how quickly I find myself "bouncing back" from childbirth are all under a microscope. I don't know what's worse, being expected to "get my body back" after having a baby, or failing at it and then being told that you are OK with that "failure," regardless.
Looks, how my postpartum stomach looks is not that important to me. I am so much more than my waist size or the number of stretch marks I sport. I don't have to be OK with the way my stomach looks, feels, bulges, or hangs over the waistband of my pre-pregnancy jeans. So, if you see me or another new mom and notice that her belly looks different, do us all a favor and keep it to yourself. It's seriously gross, and us postpartum moms couldn't care less.