When you first discover you’re pregnant, all you want is for everything to be OK. You worry, because all moms-to-be worry, but you undergo tests and hope for the best. When you’re going through a high-risk pregnancy, however, that need to hold your breath — that sinking feeling that something might be wrong that only comes around once in a blue for other pregnant folks — is a daily occurrence for you. This of course, affects both you and your partner. As such, you’re destined to learn many things about your relationship after a high-risk pregnancy.
After I lost my first child to prematurity, I got pregnant again the following year and was immediately labeled high-risk. It was an unbelievably stressful time in my life. For one, I had to go to my doctor every week to sit (well, lay down) through an ultrasound to measure my cervix. I also had to get weekly progesterone shots, which my husband lovingly administered to my posterior. I was also put on pelvic rest early on, meaning I wasn’t allowed to have sex or even have an orgasm for months (and, yes, it was hell).
About halfway through my pregnancy, I had to have an emergency cerclage and was placed on bed rest. It was a rough experience, but it made me appreciate my partner so much and connect with him on a whole other level. There are just some of the lessons I gleaned from being in a relationship during my high-risk pregnancy, and I have a feeling I'm not alone in that learning experience.