Risa Kerslake

Risa is a registered nurse turned freelance writer from the Midwest and mama to one little girl. She has too many coffee mugs, loves the thought of sleeping in, and actually makes the recipes she pins on Pinterest. She is the author of the website Risa Kerslake Writes and her favorite topics are parenting, infertility and what happens when the two collide. She loves connecting with other moms on her Facebook page, and is a big believer in it taking a village to raise a child. She has contributed articles to Mom.me, Momtastic, FertilitySmarts, Ravishly, and Romper, among others. You can read her writing at http://risakerslakewrites.com/

This Is What Happens When You Show Real Motherhood On Instagram

Elena Ridley’s Instagram account is filled with photos of her smiling 17-month-old daughter. She started keeping a blog right after she got married, planning to document her eventual pregnancy. What actually happened was Ridley turned into an…
By Risa Kerslake

What You Need To Know About Back-To-School Anxiety

Anxious about the back-to-school season? There are the endless school supplies lists, the daily lunch-making, the teary bus rides, the calamitous Changes To Routine to dread. And that's just for parents. Heading back to school can give many children…
By Risa Kerslake

If You Nearly Lost It Trying To Find The Right Daycare, You're Not Alone

You want to send your child to daycare (or have no choice), but where do you send them? Are you after a Spanish immersion program? A classroom that is sufficiently "diverse"? An in-home daycare or franchised daycare center; in an apartment or with a…
By Risa Kerslake

TBH I'm Jealous Of My Friend Who Got The Birth She Wanted

Several months back, my friend and I were catching up over coffee outside on a patio at a nearby coffee shop. It was the first time we had gotten together after the birth of her son, and we were having the inevitable birth story discussion. Don’t…
By Risa Kerslake

Women Don't Stop Breastfeeding Because They Didn't "Commit": These Are The Real Reasons

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I Tried "Le Pause" With My Newborn, & It Was A Game-Changer

If you ever read Bringing Up Bebe, you'll know about "Le Pause." It’s fun to say, especially in a French accent, but what exactly is it? I’m willing to bet it’s something you might be doing with your babies and not even realize. Bringing home my…
By Risa Kerslake

Feel Unequipped For Breastfeeding? Your OB-GYN Might Feel The Same

Kasey Jolly doesn’t think she would have breastfed for as long as she did if it wasn’t for the combined support of her OB-GYN and doula. “The only time I was ever nervous to discuss [breastfeeding] with my doctor, I was pregnant with my youngest…
By Risa Kerslake

What Birth Advocates Want You To Know About Emotional Dystocia

When Angel,* a mom from Minnesota, headed to the hospital on New Year’s Eve to be induced with her son, she had no idea what to really expect. After receiving medications to start her contractions, her water broke and she started dilating faster…
By Risa Kerslake

I Was So Focused On Childbirth That I Had No Clue What To Expect Postpartum

Childbirth is a big deal, right? You’re bringing a human being into the world, and there is a lot that can go wrong. And it doesn’t have to be huge things like a baby in distress or a mother having major blood loss. There are many unforeseen events…
By Risa Kerslake

After Infertility, The World Can Be Kind Of Difficult To Handle

Several years ago, as infertility dragged on for me, I struggled more and more with how I was going to get through the day. I stopped attending my Sunday church service after I watched numbly from my seat one Mother's Day as the pastor had all the…
By Risa Kerslake

It Cost Us $41,000 To Have A Baby, & We Don’t Regret A Single Penny

Raising a child supposedly costs you a quarter of a million dollars, but it can honestly be more daunting to face the idea of spending $80 on bottle nipples in a single month. Expense Report gives us a look into the spending, scrimping, and wishing…
By Risa Kerslake

The Word We Need To Banish From Talk About Motherhood

I feel guilty staying at home with our daughter while my husband and many of my friends work. I feel guilty quitting my stable well-paying job as a registered nurse (RN) to pursue writing part-time. I feel guilty getting to pick the days my daughter…
By Risa Kerslake

The Real Reason Why I'm Still Nursing My Toddler

In the throes of new motherhood I had one major goal: To make it one year breastfeeding. When we celebrated my daughter’s first birthday, what many didn’t realize was that I was celebrating something else as well: reaching that major breastfeeding…
By Risa Kerslake

Kegels Won’t Solve Your Postpartum Sex Issues, So Why Do We Keep Saying They Will?

Those first few times having sex after a baby were brutal, and that was even with me having a C-section. It's not something we talk much about, but postpartum issues with your pelvic floor are relatively common. Pregnancy had messed up my pelvic…
By Risa Kerslake

We Can't Afford A College Savings Fund Because IVF Put Us In Debt

We just opened a savings account for our daughter. Being the responsible adults that we are, we figured our kid should have a savings for when she’s older, perhaps for graduation, or money for college or a wedding. Feeling the pressure of all my…
By Risa Kerslake

Every New Mom Has To Make Her First Big Mistake

It came as no surprise to me that I was an overly cautious new mom— a) I’m a perfectionist by nature, b) I had had a long journey with infertility and suddenly this tiny thing I cried, pleaded, bled, and went broke for was finally here, and good…
By Risa Kerslake

We Need To Learn From Our Mothers To Prevent Lingering Birth Trauma

Thirty-seven years have passed since Molly, a mother from Kansas, gave birth to her daughter, but the memories have stuck with her. “As my labor progressed with no baby, my fear increased and any confidence I went in with was completely gone," she…
By Risa Kerslake

Women Who Miscarry Early Deserve To Grieve — Here's How Hospitals Should Be Helping

When I lost my baby back in 2013, it was because of a very early miscarriage. Because of the little amount of time I spent being pregnant, it was though my child had never really existed, which made the next few years hard — I felt like they had…
By Risa Kerslake

Can We Please Stop Lying About How All Moms Magically Bond With Their Newborns?

New motherhood should be a time of bliss and bonding. Of days spent ignoring the laundry because you’re cuddling with a newborn. But for some moms, especially those dealing with health complications or feeding problems, the ideal of cozy,…
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