The relationship between a patient and a doctor is intimate and sacred. This is, perhaps, even truer of the relationship between an obstetrician and a pregnant (or recently pregnant) mom. It's important to have someone you trust and respect, and who trusts and respects you back. Unfortunately, as someone who's spent the last two years talking to moms about their pregnancies and births, I've come across too many stories about awful or even abusive OBs. Look, you don't have to love your doctor on a spiritual level, but there are creepy things your OB-GYN should never do.
Being pregnant and having a baby is a lot to handle on pretty much every level, and your OB-GYN is going to be a key player on Team "Get Me Through This Pregnancy So I Can Meet My Baby." And let's not forget that by the end of a pregnancy you're seeing your doctor, like, every five minutes. That's a way bigger commitment and closer relationship than the one you probably have with your general practitioner. Do you know the last time I saw my general practitioner? Trick question! I don't even have one since I moved six years ago! (That shrieking sound you heard is my mom and husband yelling at me to go to the damn doctor. I hear it every other week.)
So if your OB-GYN tries any of the following, it's basically a big red flag that it might be time to move on to someone new: