In the fight for equality, there is one aspect seldom discussed: the indecencies of pregnancy that women suffer. Without a uterus, a man simply can not know what it’s like to experience the physical foibles of carrying and birthing a baby. While men may wish for the bond birth mothers have with their children, they should be grateful to be excluded from the less enviable events that accompany motherhood. After all, there are embarrassing mom moments dads couldn’t possibly understand, and not all of them stem from the built-in biological differences between mothers and fathers.
I would love for dads to be able to experience some the unique instances of motherhood, because through compassion comes understanding. Surely allmen would call themselves feminists if they were given the opportunity to endure what so many women go through: the physical, mental, and emotional nuances that are inherent to the female experience. My husband is accepting of my grouchy mood for a couple of days each month, at a certain point in my cycle, but he doesn’t really “get it.” It would be nice if he did.
And so, in parenting, to have our male partners truly grasp what mothers grapple with — in terms of breastfeeding, body image, working mom judgment — would be monumental. We definitely wouldn’t have to explain or justify our discomfort, sadness, or pain. We wouldn’t have to shoulder the burden of weirdness that sometimes applies only to mothers, like these embarrassing mom moments dads couldn’t possibly understand: