Pregnancy: it's the best of times, it's the worst of times. Then again, sometimes it's mediocre. Like almost anything else you will experience in life, it's all depends on who you ask. When we are bombarded with ideas about what pregnancy is and what it "should be," very few benefit. In fact, there are things people need to stop saying about pregnancy in general, because these sweepings statements hurt more than they help.
Let me be clear, what follows is not a reprimand of anyone's personal experience. If your pregnancy was beautiful, awesome! For me, however, some pregnancy moments were great and others, well, weren't. Like life in general, "some things are good and some things are bad" seems far more realistic than using sweeping generalities to describe something as complicated as pregnancy. That's why the idea of pregnancy, and what we as a culture say when we talk about "all pregnancies," needs to change. In this culture we also tend to minimize women's bodies as nothing more than incubators. This dirty habit is demoralizing in every sense of the word, because people with uteruses are so much more than, you know, their uteruses. It's also, quite frankly, dangerous, as it contributes to the idea that women's consent for what happens to their bodies isn't needed.
Do you love your pregnant body? Do you hate your pregnant body? Was pregnancy a breeze, or is it a raging hell you couldn't wait to be over? There are as many ways to experience pregnancy, so forcing people's experiences into a box of "what every pregnancy is like" is bound to leave somebody (or lots of somebodies) out. So can we just please stop saying these things about pregnancy, and start listening to individual pregnant people, instead?