There's no "right way" to feel when you take a pregnancy test and it's positive. Some women are overjoyed, some are disappointed, some are terrified, and some (read: many) are totally surprised. So, while there truly isn't a correct way to feel when you find out you're pregnant, there are definitely things you should never say to a woman with a surprise pregnancy, who is probably feeling a million emotions simultaneously.
According to the Guttmacher Institute, nearly half of all pregnancies are unintentional. I’ll be the first to admit that none of my pregnancies have been planned. The first time that pregnancy test showed up positive, I wasn’t being as careful as I could have been. The next couple of times I found out I was pregnant, I was being very careful, but things just kind of happened the way they did. I know what it’s like to get a positive result and wonder what the hell you’re going to do, and the confusing situation is almost always made worse when you have to start telling people about it. Turns out, as open minded and kind and caring as your friends and family may be (or think they may be), there’s often a hint of judgement that comes from them thinking they know what’s best for your life. Except, well, they don't. The only person who knows what's truly best for you (and your body) is you.
So instead of being a jerk and saying any of the following to a woman who just found out she's surprisingly pregnant, try to just follow their cues. Ask this newly-pregnant person how they’re feeling or what they plan on doing. Offer to be there for them no matter what, because that's the only thing you should be saying to someone with a surprise pregnancy. This list, though? It’s all the stuff you shouldn’t say (even if you’re screaming it internally).