When I was pregnant with my son I was consistently asked, “Are you scared?” It’s a valid question (despite the fact that it’s usually left out of baby shower conversations and chatter, which all us new moms appreciate BTW) since it’s totally OK to be scared of labor and delivery. Depending on who was doing the asking and when they were doing it, I either responded with an enthusiastic, "Yes, obviously and why are you asking me such a stupid question?” or I tried to deflect; preferring not to get into specifics over spaghetti whilst on my lunch break.
However, now that some time has passed since I was constantly asked those questions, I think about them a little differently. I’d would even venture to guess that most moms are scared (though, I have zero scientific evidence to back this up) because really, why wouldn’t they be? Labor and delivery aren’t exactly presented in the most positive light in film and media, giving us a pretty skewed version of what the entire childbirth experience entails. Of course, film and media aren’t the only ways we get impressions of the birth experience before we go through it, but it’s a prime example of how most conversations around birth and labor don’t exactly involve sparkles and unicorns and nothing but happy, fuzzy feelings. I suppose they could, if you had a really intense birth plan, but for the rest of us, they do not.
So, if you currently are, or once were, scared of labor and delivery, know that you have the support of at least one internet stranger who’s also been there. Here’s why, in my experience, it’s totally OK to be scared of labor and delivery: