Prior to becoming parents, most people are only responsible for themselves. While people can (and usually do) stop to think about how their decisions may affect their loved ones, for the most part each choice is made with only one person in mind: me. When you're a parent, however, you're automatically responsible for making decisions about and for your child. And while some compromise is needed when people are raising children, there are certain things parents fundamentally agree on when they're good parents. In fact, there are things that aren't even up for negotiation.
Partners can, and should, openly talk about what is important to them when it comes to raising children. Life isn't ideal, though, and few situations are ever perfect. In fact, modern day parenting looks different than parenthood did even a decade ago. Families are so incredibly varied now, our world has vastly changed, and information is so free-flowing that it can be difficult if not downright impossible to find a parenting style that works best for you and your family. Well, at least without a little (read: a lot) of trial and error first.
The family dynamic is no longer limited to a female and a male raising 2.5 children. All families are diverse and incredible in their own ways. And while society is still coming to terms with "non-conventional" families, the fact that people are, in many ways, more comfortable living how they want to live is pretty amazing and worthy of celebration.
That said, and regardless of any family's unique dynamic, parenting is still tough. Techniques and styles are constantly changing, new parents are relentlessly scrutinized, and in the United States parents still can't rely on mandatory paid family leave. Parenting styles may have been renamed, revamped, and re-marketed, but the basics of raising children remain more so the same. So when it comes to parenting, and while there are moments when compromise is beneficial, there are a few things that, as parents, you have to agree on if you're going to win at this whole parenting thing.