It's difficult to feel as though moms can "win" in our culture. I don't know a single mom who hasn't faced criticism about something. Everyone seems to have an opinion about how you're supposed to do things, and they often feel the need to tell you when "you're doing it wrong." They make a ton of assumptions about you, your life, and your ability to parent, usually based on how you look. I learned (the hard way) that there are so many unbelievably rude and presumptuous things people feel fine saying to moms who look young, too. I guess not everyone got the whole "don't judge a book by its cover" memo. Wonderful.
I had no idea what to say when people voiced their assumptions about my age and how it supposedly changes the way I parent. I mean, even if a random individual's speculation was true, how I parent and how my age may or may not impact my parenting is so personal. Besides, my family planning decisions are nobody's damn business. Young moms face a different set of obstacles in our culture, and especially when compared to those who look like they've waited to have babies at what has arbitrarily been deemed a "respectable age." I have heard so many comments as a mom who looks young (and I'm not even that young you guys), including the following: