Relationships are hard work, to be sure, and pretty much require constant care and attention. They're frequently tested by the changes, choices, and bumps in the road that are a normal part of life. Then, when you get pregnant, you'll face even larger, and arguably more frequent, challenges that can test the most solid of relationships. If you are lucky, though, you will make it through — together — starting with the pregnancy decisions you naturally make if your marriage is a happy one.
For my husband and I, the first choice we made was, honestly, the decision to try to conceive in the first place. Whether it's your first baby — the one that will turn your "just us two" relationship into a family — or your fifth, pregnancy is a big deal. The moment you find out you're pregnant you have to make a ton of choices, including but certainly not limited to: whether or not you undergo prenatal testing, when to tell people you're expecting, whether or not to take a look at the anatomy ultrasound, and what to name your soon-to-be baby.
My husband and I tried to stay on the same page about almost everything, knowing that there were some things — pretty much everything having to do with my body — that were entirely up to me, as the pregnant person. There were so many things that we decided together, as a team, because that's how strong couples make it through the ups and downs of the roller coaster that is pregnancy.