There are so many aspects of parenting that seemingly everyone (parents and non-parents, alike) have some thoughts about. That's all well and good, except most people seem hellbent on sharing said thoughts in an unsolicited, often judgmental manner that I, personally, could do without. So, it comes as no surprise that, as a mother who isn't married to her parenting partner, there are things people need to stop saying about co-parenting, and immediately. Yes, people are entitled to their own opinions and I'm not in the business of policing what someone else believes to be "right." However, in the end, just like I can't tell someone that what they think is "right" is actually "wrong," no one can tell me that the living arrangement that is right for my family, is "wrong," either.
My partner and I met like most millennial couples: at a bar by way of social media. He followed me on Twitter; I followed back. He asked me to meet him for a drink; I obliged because, well, duh. That was the beginning of the end, as they say, and about six months later we were pregnant. I moved in, we had a baby and we started a life together but never once did we stop and think, "We have to get married." I'm not a fan of marriage and we were committed to one another without a ring or a piece of paper or an expensive ceremony so, in the end, we didn't see the point. Sadly, not everyone else thinks the same, and there are a few people who are a little too quick to tell my partner and I that co-parenting as two non-married human beings is somehow detrimental to our child.
I've learned to let those comments go, as they're not worth my time and energy. I also know that even though my partner and I aren't married, we are together and that makes our co-parenting situation (to some people) not as "bad" as, say, a single mother and a single father parenting together, but from separate houses. I mean, it's 2016 people; there's no one way to be a family and there's no one way to have a relationship with someone and there's no one way to parent. Can we just all, collectively, decide to just trust people and take their word for it when they save they've found the set up that works best for them? Awesome. A great way to start, I think, is to stop saying the following things about co-parenting.