The aftermath of possibly the most physically and emotionally draining experience of my life, combined with the realization that I was someone's mom, knocked me sideway. Add an onslaught of hormones and a few sleepless nights and, well, I'm not surprised new moms don't feel like themselves after giving birth. I mean, I didn't. Thankfully, there are things friends and family can do for a mom who literally just gave birth; things that can make her feel loved, valued, and cared for; things that can definitely improve that exhausting (and ridiculously blissful) post-baby haze.
I have to admit that, after I gave birth, I didn't really enjoy my post-baby hospital experience. While I appreciate and respect the hard work that nurses do, in my particular experience I felt that some personal care was missing. Instead of feeling unique and valued (or at least like a patient that was being professionally tended to) I felt like I was on the "new mom conveyor belt," just going down a mechanic line until it was my time to leave.
For example, some of the advice I was given was patronizing and dismissive of my life experience (particularly my career in baby care). It was actually suggested by one cranky nurse that my husband (who happens to be disabled) wasn't going to be able to hold our baby properly. Obviously we were very unhappy with this blatant ableism and her failed attempt to set limits on what my husband can and can't do. Needless to say, we couldn't wait to get out of there and, after making a formal complaint about our treatment, we hightailed it home.
Rather than the prejudice views and condescension my partner and I, unfortunately, experienced I would loved to have had more people doing the following things: