While a lot of people think that becoming a mom means you have to start looking and dressing "like a mom," I totally disagree. In fact, motherhood changed my wardrobe for the better. Seriously, you guys, it absolutely did. Now, I'm not talking about stereotypes like "mom jeans" and "letting yourself go," because those are bulls*t and based on misogynistic ideas about how women ought to dress. Rather, for me, dressing like a mom means finally dressing like myself.
Growing up I couldn't care less about clothes. My standard uniform was a baggy t-shirt, a flannel shirt, baggy jeans, and combat boots. My mom begged me not to wear a Nirvana t-shirt and jeans for my senior pictures, but I'm proud to say I won that particular clothing battle. I think a lot of my aversion to fashion-forward clothes came from being different. I was geeky, smart, and liked poetry readings more than football games or the "popular crowd." Also, I was bullied and decided to stop trying so hard to get people I hated to like me.
Then I discovered fitness and lost the weight I had gained in college. I realized that I loved clothes, and I bought, cocktail dresses, jeans that made my ass look amazing, and more pantsuits than Hillary Clinton. I had cardigan sweaters in every color, enough shoes to fill a closet, and even a vinyl ballgown. I became a whiz at thrift store and clearance rack finds. I thought clothes made me happy, but really they were just filling a void. Retail therapy felt really good when my marriage was failing and my husband treated me like crap.
Since becoming a mom, my style and clothing needs have changed drastically. After going through a divorce, moving with kids fours times in four years, changing careers, and beginning a job where could work from home, I realized I had way too many clothes, and that the clothes I had didn't reflect me anymore. So, I sold or gave away much of my wardrobe and started over. Here are a few things I've learned along the way, that have changed my wardrobe for the better.