Picking the right obstetrics provider to manage your medical care during pregnancy and childbirth can be challenging. I ended up with half a dozen providers over the course of my three pregnancies. It wasn't just that I was indecisive (although sometimes I can be). It's because I needed to have a provider I could trust to provide evidence-based medical care, listen to my needs, and help me safely carry tiny humans for 40 weeks (more or less). I discovered the hard way that if your OB-GYN doesn't know these nine things, it's time to make a switch. Like, immediately.
My quest for the right provider started early in my pregnancy. I had hyperemesis gravidarum and every provider at the practice told me it was just morning sickness and suggested that I try crackers or ginger ale, as if I hadn't already. One doctor even refused to give me medication or fluids when I hadn't eaten for days and was so dehydrated my pee looked like apple juice. Yep, that particular provider definitely wasn't the right doctor for me.
Then, there was the OB-GYN I saw early in my second trimester, who fat-shamed me at my appointment, saying that I was gaining weight too quickly and needed to eat healthier or I was going to get diabetes. Not only is that not how gestational diabetes works, but I really wish this particular doc had taken a look at my chart to see that I had gained weight after losing weight my entire first trimester. Ugh. Besides, fat-shaming patients is really uncool.
For my last pregnancy, I was eventually able to find a provider I trusted and who respected me and my choices, but I had quite the adventure finding her. So if you're on your own journey to finding the OB-GYN for you, keep in mind the following things: