In my experience, it doesn't take long after you have your first baby for people to start wondering about your second. So, before you know it, you'll be asking yourself questions about age gaps and the cost of two children and the benefits of siblings. The answer to those questions, of course, vary from parent to parent, which begs the question: How do moms know when they want another baby? Make no mistake, there's no one answer, let alone one "right" answer.
My first pregnancy wasn’t planned, but I can still remember the moment I decided I wanted to go all in and carry that pregnancy to term. My husband and I were having individual panic attacks about the situation just after I showed him the positive pregnancy test, but eventually we settled down and realized we were ready to try our hand at parenthood. Sadly, we lost that baby to prematurity, and as a result of that devastating loss we weren't in a rush to try and have another child anytime soon. Life had other plans, though, and I found out I was pregnant six months later. And in much the same fashion, I made the decision to see that second pregnancy through shortly after the pregnancy test turned positive. I felt like we were being given a second shot, and I had to at least try.
Now I'm raising our 4-year-old son and while I'm not in a hurry to expand my family, the thought of having another child has definitely crossed my mind. I mean, now that I have a child who is potty-trained and in preschool, should I have another baby? And if so, when? I have plenty of time to figure out the answer to that question, but I'm curious as to how other moms finally decided to expand their family. So with that in mind, here are a few moms willing to share their decision making process with us: