Latifah Miles

Latifah is a graduate of New Jersey City University in Jersey City, NJ where she majored in English with a concentration in Journalism. She writes for her lifestyle blog at Youngfabulousandnatural.com. When she isn't writing, she loves trying to master all of the baked goods she's pinned on her Pinterest.com boards and binge watching Netflix.
Recent Articles

I'm A Single Mom & Here's How I'm Spending My Valentine's Day

Growing up, every Valentine’s Day my dad would come home with an armload of chocolates, teddy bears, flowers, and cards with handwritten notes for us girls in the house. Through my awkward phases where the idea of a boy liking me was equivalent to pu…
By Latifah Miles

I Hated My Boobs After Breastfeeding

The moment I became pregnant, I was bombarded with an endless list of choices that needed to be made. From choosing bed-sharing versus room-sharing to epidural versus unmedicated labor, it seemed like there was always something that needed to be deci…
By Latifah Miles

If You Think Meghan Markle's Engagement Is No Big Deal, You're Probably White

Whether you are all heart eyes over the royal family or can’t even name Prince William's kids, Prince Harry's engagement to Meghan Markle is worth tuning in. The royal family's big announcement Monday wasn't just the promise of another royal wedding;…
By Latifah Miles

Please Stop Saying That I'm "Lucky" to Co-Parent

Here's a rough rundown of my "co-parenting schedule": Monday through Wednesday morning, I am the primary parent for my son. Wednesday after school through Thursday evening, my son’s dad takes on the role. My son is back in my care from Thursday night…
By Latifah Miles

Millennial Moms Aren't Lazy And Narcissistic, We're Just Trying To Raise Our Kids

You see them all over the internet: a Millennial mom holding up her perfect baby, a 'gram perfected using some of the best lighting and photo-filter programs known to man. I am a 20-something mother of a toddler who has grown up in the thick of the I…
By Latifah Miles

Here's What A Single Mom's Sex Life Actually Looks Like

During the work week, I am rushing around like a chicken with its head cut off. I'm constantly shuttling my 4-year-old to daycare, doing laundry, making dinner, and trying to be a mom. By the time Saturday evening finally hits and my son’s dad picks …
By Latifah Miles

I Tried Gwyneth Paltrow's Jade Vagina Egg For A Week, & TBH, It Was Awesome

After giving birth almost 5 years ago, I've decided to accept the truth: my vagina will never be the same. The physical trauma that comes with bringing a child into the world creates some irreversible changes. While most of the issues that I felt ear…
By Latifah Miles

Honestly, I'm Worried About My Black Son Dating White Women

On a hot summer day in August 1955, a 14-year-old black boy was hanging out around a grocery store in Money, Mississippi. His friends dared him to walk into the store and ask the white cashier for a date, so he complied. The cashier, Carolyn Bryant, …
By Latifah Miles

Dear Single Moms: I See You

Once, I was sitting around with a few of my fellow moms, and we were chatting about our children. One of my friends went on and on about how adorable her sons are when they are able to get along and play with each other, and how her husband is like h…
By Latifah Miles

I Refuse To Let My Child Be The Token Black Kid

For the first few years of my son’s life, his grandmother watched him during the day while his dad and I were at work. It was a total blessing that she was around and willing to watch him, because I was not ready to send him off to daycare or prescho…
By Latifah Miles

The One Thing All New Moms Should Know About Jaundice

Last week, Beyoncé and Jay-Z reportedly welcomed their twin babies, according to multiple press reports. While Bey and Jay have yet to issue a statement, today TMZ reported that Beyoncé and Jay-Z's babies are probably being treated for jaundice. The …
By Latifah Miles

Yup, I Tried Vaginal Steaming

Mentally preparing myself for giving birth to my first child was anything but easy. I had no clue what to expect. I’d heard horror stories from other women about their own birth experiences, so the night that I went into labor, I worried about things…
By Latifah Miles

The Important Reason Why I Chose My Son's Name

Growing up, I hated my name. It was long and difficult for people to pronounce, and I thought that my parents were unbelievably cruel for giving it to me. The first day of school was always filled with anxiety, because I'd constantly wonder if my tea…
By Latifah Miles

An Open Letter To My Ex

To my ex-partner and the father of my son, The birth of our son was just 5 years ago, but it feels like a distant memory. The entire pregnancy was unexpected and unplanned. We managed to get our finances together, grow up, and become parents in the s…
By Latifah Miles

I'm Never Going To Force My Kid To Talk To Someone

As a kid, my mom expected my brother and me to avoid embarrassing her at all costs. She'd coach us before leaving the house and before arriving at our whatever destination, saying, “eat while we are home so you don’t go begging for food at Susan’s ho…
By Latifah Miles

No, I Won't Use "Cute" Names For My Son's Privates

As a child, I remember the women in my family specifically prancing around the correct terminology for my vagina. They would tell me about how to clean my "lady bits," educate me on when it was the right time to try out tampons for my "sugar bowl," o…
By Latifah Miles

How I'm Keeping My Mom's Memory Alive For My Son

Growing up, some of my best childhood memories stem from celebrating my birthday. My mom would go all out and make the impossible happen. We weren’t wealthy by any stretch of the word, and more often than not, my mom was a struggling single parent ra…
By Latifah Miles

A Black 'Bachelorette' Is Way Overdue

After 33 seasons over the course of 15 years, ABC has finally decided the world is ready to meet its first black Bachelorette contestant. News broke earlier in the day on Feb. 13 that Rachel Lindsay would be The Bachelorette's first black woman lead …
By Latifah Miles

My First Postpartum One-Night Stand Was Hell

Having good sex as a single mom is an endless juggling act. You have to silence the nagging feeling of guilt that you're engaging in something that's just for you. You have to squash the negative thoughts swirling around about your postpartum belly. …
By Latifah Miles

I Was Shamed For Being A Young Mom

If you ask any woman who has ever been pregnant, she will likely tell you that being pregnant is an open invitation for people to give you unsolicited advice, remarks, and comments. Typically, I am open to receiving advice when I'm about to embark on…
By Latifah Miles