Alright, new parents. It's truth time. Parenting is hard work. Harder than anything else you’ve ever done. In order to survive it, especially in those early days, you need to rally together as a team. You know how football players get pep talks before a game? Well, this is your parenting pep talk. This is about supporting one another in and through this exhausting time, so you can remain a cohesive unit. So, yes, there are ways strong couples protect their relationship post-baby, especially when that baby hits certain milestones and, as a result, the way you parent as a couple changes.
Now, I must admit that my suggestion is to just wing it during the first and second post-baby months, then take the time to really focus on the following. Why? Well, because in that first postpartum month things can feel pretty surreal, exhausting, and somewhat unstable. The formerly-pregnant parent will still be coming off the high of childbirth, dealing with those wild hormonal roller coaster feels and allowing their body to heal from labor and delivery. At the same time, both of you will still be adjusting to this whole #TeamNoSleep lifestyle. In other words, give the two of you some space — as a couple and as individuals — to adjust to your new life as parents before really focusing on how that new life has impacted your relationship. Demanding much from one another during this time period is, honestly, unfair.
Once you get the hang of around-the-clock diaper changes, minimal sleep, bedtime routines, and feeding rituals, you and your partner will be much better equipped to shift your focus and start looking at, and tending to, your relationship as a couple. That is when you should try doing the following, if only to make sure you remain the strong couple you were before your little bundle of joy came into the world. After all, parenthood itself doesn't mean your relationship no longer matters. If anything, your new life as a parent means your romantic relationship is more important than ever before.