When I got pregnant with my first child, I was so #blessed to have a sister to show me the ropes. Every time we spoke I realized she knew absolutely everything there was to know about pregnancy and parenting, even though she was childless at the time. She had read numerous articles on the subject, and had friends with kids, so that's the same as being a seasoned parent, right? Wrong. Consequently, there were quite a few things that I wanted my kid's child-free aunt to know. Mostly, that her opinions and advice about parenting were not necessary. Or helpful. Or necessary. Did I mention, they weren't necessary?
I know she was probably just trying to be involved and was sharing her wealth of knowledge because she cared about me and her niece, but it was so infuriating. We actually got into a huge fight right before my baby was born, and all because I was so damn tired of her unsolicited pregnancy and parenting advice. And once my daughter arrived, we barely spoke for months. Every time we did manage to speak to one another, she shamed the hell out of me for not doing things her way. So, I mean, what new mom needs that in her life? The answer: no one. Not a single damn one.
Now, I think a lot of us child-free people truly believe we will be the "perfect" parents once we have kids. I know I did. But it wasn’t until my sister shared her views on things like what I ate or drank during pregnancy, my use of pain medication during labor, breastfeeding, sleep-training, and the ideal diet to feed my child, that I understood how unbelievably annoying I probably was when I said similar things to my mom friends before I was a mom myself.