Valentine’s Day is coming up, and no matter how you feel about it, there’s a good chance your kids will want to participate. Between school activities and cartoon holiday specials, little ones usually know what’s up when V-Day rolls around. But is it possible to celebrate Feb. 14 if you’re inclusive and believe in gender equality, but still a sucker for romantic comedies and roses? The short answer? Yes. There are ways to have a feminist Valentine’s Day with kids that won't fill Cupid's Special Day with unnecessary gender norms and patriarchal messages. Trust me.
Truth be told, I’m still fairly new at the whole "celebrating Valentine’s with my kid" thing. My son is just shy of 4-years-old, which means that up until this point I could consider buying a pack of Valentine's Day cards from the Dollar Tree, complete with a Hot Wheels car (because he loves those, probably more than he loves me), a job well done. Now that he's older, though, he has grown more perceptive about holidays, and this one is no different. I know he’s going to pick up on social cues from the rest of society about how people should behave (including how “men” should act) on the so-called "most romantic day of the year."
So, now that I've been forced to think more and more about how we can still celebrate Valentine's Day while remaining true to the feminist ideals I am teaching my son, I've invested my time into thinking outside the box. So with that in mind, here are are a few ways I’ll be incorporating my feminism into our Day of Love. Hopefully a few of the following will work for your family, too.