Aimee Christian

Aimee: Introverted oversharer. Native New Yorker. Tattooed vegan hippygoth mama of 2. Adoptee. Special needs parent, but not by choice. Her writing has been published on Romper.com, Popsugar, and in The New York Times.

We Are Godless & This Is How We Celebrate The Holidays

I never expected the holiday season would become important to me. Growing up, that time of year was a constant source of disappointment. I was raised culturally Jewish but with no religion to speak of, and when my husband and I met, I had no…
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What Does An Ugly Duckling Mom Know About Self-Esteem For Her Kids?

I always tell people I was a late bloomer, but that is me being extra kind to myself. If I’m being totally honest, I was an outright ugly duckling, adopted into a family that was nothing like me. I had a lot to figure out on my own, and it took me a…
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Is A C-Section With 8 Weeks Paid Leave Better Than A Vaginal Birth With 6 Weeks? Well...

My two daughters came into the world in radically different ways. One was born in the hospital by c-section, amidst wires and monitors and drugs. There was drama, there was rushing around, and there was the profound feeling that this was not how it…
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Parenting Won’t Be Like Anything You Imagined. It Can’t Be.

This weekend I tried to sync my phone and I couldn't because it was too full of photos. Pictures of me, twice hugely pregnant. Thousands of pictures and videos of my two daughters as newborns, toddlers, preschoolers. They were stunningly beautiful.…
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What Taking The Subway To Deliver My Baby Taught Me About How We Treat Pregnant Bodies

Maybe it’s crazy to you, but I took the subway to the hospital when I was in labor with my baby, and if they’d let me, I would have taken it home, too. I am a native New Yorker, I'm not a germophobe, and in pregnancy I was also a newly minted miser.…
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Our Sleep Consultant Had Some Harsh Feedback

I never expected to reach the level of sleep deprivation that I would entertain thoughts of hiring a sleep consultant, but that's what happened. And the advice I got was so shocking to me that I actually decided sleep deprivation was preferable.…
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My Husband Is An Accidental Stay-At-Home Dad

It’s not as unusual as it used to be that my husband is a stay-at-home dad while I have a job outside the home, but the way it happened was accidental. In fact, we’ve fallen into ass-backwards into just about everything Johnny and I have done…
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My Partner Helped Me Deliver Our Babies & It Changed Things Forever

I was not the kind of expectant parent who said we’re pregnant. No way. I was pregnant. Of course my husband was equal parts responsible for the actual creation of our family, but I felt entitled to claim pregnancy in all its biological glory as…
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I Wanted My Mother At My Birth, But That Isn't What Happened

I know so many people who say their mother is their best friend, and that gives me mom envy. I always thought it would be so incredible to feel close enough to my mother to want to call her when exciting things happen. I wanted us to be so close…
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This Book's Magic Spell Helped Me Find Home

Reading a book 200 times is a surefire way to find out whether you love it or want to throw its rhyming llama couplets into the diaper pail. Children's books especially do a tricky dance for an audience of squinty-eyed parents and wide-eyed tots:…
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When You're Envious of Your Friend's Neurotypical Kid

For the first few years after our second child was born, my life as a parent seemed to be divided into Before Freyja’s Diagnosis and After. I will never forget the heart-stopping day we found out, when I thought the world would end. For a brief…
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I'm A Special Needs Mom & I'm Afraid I *Hate* Halloween

I am dreading Halloween this year, because last year it totally sucked and the year before that totally sucked too. I’d always loved the costumes and all things spooky and creepy and dark, but since becoming the parent of a child with a physical…
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The Job Of The Other Sibling

What's hardest for me about being the parent of a child with a disability — more than all the doctor's appointments, therapy sessions, calls to insurance companies, forms to fill out, advocates to call, workshops to attend, everything else there is…
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The Hardest Part Of Parenting Is Letting Your Kid Experience True Frustration

It didn’t take long after the birth of my first child for me to realize I had no idea what I was doing. I assumed my ability to parent would be instinctual, unleashed the very moment I gave birth, but instead, I was lost without a compass. The one…
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It’s Back To School & That Means Segregation For My Kid

School starts this week and I’m scared. Freyja, my 6-year-old daughter, isn’t scared at all. She had a great kindergarten year and can’t wait to go back. Every time we’ve passed her school over summer vacation, she’s waved enthusiastically. “Hi…
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The Best & Hardest Thing I've Done As A Parent Is Put My Kid On That Bus

On the first day of school, I hugged and kissed my daughter Freyja goodbye and watched as her bus pulled away, waving until it reached the end of the block, turned left, and disappeared out of sight. Then I turned toward our apartment building and…
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My Body Wanted Me To Stop Breastfeeding My Older Child

I loved nursing my baby from the very moment she was born. After an effortless conception and a pregnancy that felt like 39 weeks and five days of beautiful, blissful blossoming, I'd had a horrific and unplanned c-section that I now know probably…
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My Mother Was Adopted, I Was Adopted, & Deciding Whether To Adopt Myself Was Incredibly Difficult

When the author set out to find her birth parents, she found out generations of adoption are not uncommon — but what did that mean she should do when it came to having kids as an adoptee? When I was adopted, it was a secretive affair. I knew the…
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