Marie Southard Ospina

Marie (otherwise known as Miggle) is a freelance writer and fat acceptance activist. Her loves include: Writing about plus-size fashion and body politics, watching a lot of sci-fi, and listening to ungodly amounts of folk music. When she's not lingering on Bustle, she's probably working on her blog, trying to write her first collection of essays (because #Millennials), or experiencing a rage cycle about Breaking Bad no longer being in her life. As seen discussing body image on Good Morning America and StyleLikeU, with writings on Refinery29, BuzzFeed, Huffington Post, and Volup2.

Breastfeeding In Public Is Harder Because I'm Fat, & I'm Calling Bull

When my eldest daughter was eight months old, we took the train into the nearest city for little daytime getaway. I nestled into the only available two-person seat, which was adjacent to a young couple. About 15 minutes into our journey, the baby…
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Colic Will Make You Feel Like A Failure — Head's Up

In the week or two after my second baby was born, I couldn't believe how well everything was going. Unlike my first, Elia latched onto my breast minutes after entering the world. She was an amazing feeder all around: there was no struggling, no…
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Many New Moms Experience Self-Critical Thought Loops — Here’s How To Kick Them

In the year after my eldest daughter was born, these were just some of the self-critical thought loops of postpartum depression (PPD) and anxiety (PPA) that I found myself in: I'm not doing enough for my career. I'm stagnating. I'll never work in…
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How I Got Over My Jealousy Of My Friend's Miracle Sleep Baby

"She still doesn't sleep through the night?" It was a simple question, but one that put me on edge immediately nonetheless. "My son has been sleeping through since the 16-week mark. I don't hear a peep out of him most evenings." At the time, my…
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I Couldn't Get An Epidural During Labor, & It Was Just As Bad As I Imagined

Despite being rather accident-prone, I've never been one for pain. At times, stubbing my toe on the dining room table is enough to bring me to tears, as is a particularly bad headache. I'm no more comfortable watching the pain of others, either.…
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The Transition From 1 To 2 Kids Has Been Hella Easier Than From 0 To 1

I would like to say that I was overcome with nothing but joy and wonderment when I found out I was going from one child to two. In truth, the immediate weeks (OK, maybe months) following the news were spent in a perpetual state of panic. I loved…
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'To All The Boys I've Loved Before' Is The Teen Movie We Never Got, That Our Kids Absolutely Deserve

There's a lot that frightens me about raising two daughters, and media consumption is at the top of the list. I wonder what movies and shows my kids will watch, and I wonder what problematic lessons about womanhood, sexuality, friendship, or…
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Why We Need To Resist The "Mommy Wars"

A friend and fellow millennial mom was recently telling me about her experiences with "baby ballet" — that is, a baby and toddler group where children are encouraged to learn 15th century dance from a semi-professional ballerina while Tchaikovsky…
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Dear Maternity Brands: Plus-Size Women Get Pregnant, Too

I have never met an expectant mother who was actively fond of maternity clothes. That is, an expectant mother who felt that the styles out there specifically designed to accommodate her growing baby bump were anything other than fugly. The world of…
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No, Raising "Fat-Positive" Kids Isn't Doing Damage To Them

There are some silly little critiques of fat positivity that tend to surface whenever anyone identifies with the movement in a public way. One clap-back goes something like, "Stop trying to get us all to find big people attractive," as if…
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No, I'm Not Worried That My Bilingual Toddler Speaks More Spanish Than English

Long before I got pregnant with my first child, I knew that I wanted to raise bilingual children. Although I was brought up primarily in the States, my mom found ways of preserving our Colombian heritage from the moment I was born. This meant…
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What To Do When Someone Asks If You're Pregnant... Or "Just Fat"

For as long as I can remember, my tummy has been a subject of conversation, whether it was flat, wobbly, or assuming the baby bump form. I was a thin kid until age 9 or 10, when sudden weight gain left the adults around me concerned. "This is the…
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There's A Very Good Reason Moms Watch So Many Rom-Coms

"Why are you crying?" a friend asked abruptly as I answered her FaceTime call. I touched my cheek in confusion, not having realized that tears had appeared. "Oh, um, I'm just watching When Harry Met Sally," I told her, feeling sort of guilty and…
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My Kid Is Made Of Chicken Nuggets & She's Fine, OK?

"Why don't you try feeding her something else?" My aunt's pointed question about my picky eater made me cringe as I put a second tray of chicken nuggets in the oven that day. My 17-month-old had already eaten six of these breaded beauties for lunch,…
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This Mother's Day, Ask Your Mom About Her Birth

Almost every time I have found myself in the company of both my mom and daughter, my mother will ask, "Do you get it now?" The question will arise when she catches me smothering Luna in kisses, or watching her sleep. When she sees us laughing…
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Why Is "Mama" The Last Name Your Baby Learns?

There is nothing quite like hearing your baby say "mama" for the first time, or "mommy," "mom," "ma," and any derivative thereof. I still remember when my daughter, Luna, looked up at me with wide eyes and open arms. A crisp "mama!" escaped her tiny…
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Can We Agree That Having "Two Under 2" Is Not A Curse?

I'll never forget the moment I found out I was expecting a second child. After the longest three minutes of my life (at least the longest three minutes of my life since peeing on a stick two years before), the screen on a digital pregnancy test…
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My Vulva Was The Hardest Thing To Love After Pregnancy

Before my daughter was even born, messages around the need to "fix" my body postpartum, to undo the damage, had already begun to sail in from every direction. YouTube videos promised to strengthen my sagging body, Instagram recommended post-baby…
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For Mother's Day, Treat Yourself & Unfollow As Many People As You Like

Every few years, I take some time out of my weekend to cleanse my social media feeds. By cleanse, I mean remove any Facebook friends, or folks I follow on Instagram and Twitter, who have no business being in my life (electronic or otherwise). They…
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Please Stop Labeling My Unborn Baby Before They’re Born

"They already have such different temperaments," my mother-in-law told me recently, referring to my 16-month-old daughter and the 28-week-old fetus in my belly. "This one's so much more active!" While it's true that I've felt this unborn baby's…
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