Marie Southard Ospina

Freelance writer, editor, and fat acceptance activist. Words on Bustle, Romper, BuzzFeed, Refinery29, Self, Dazed, The Temper, Healthline, The Establishment & more; face on Good Morning America and StyleLikeU discussing self-image. If I'm not writing about plus-size fashion, body politics, or motherhood, you can likely catch me watching the latest sci-fi series, listening to that old folk album your grandparents are always going on about, or wiping some kind of goop off my kids' faces.

'Dumplin'' Is The Film I Needed As A Fat Daughter, & Now A Mom

There is a lot to love about Dumplin', the new Netflix original film based on Julie Murphy's 2015 novel of the same name. It is, quite possibly, a first of its kind. It is a movie that not only centers, and celebrates, a fat person, but one that…
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*Must* You Make Mom Friends? These Experts Think So, Actually

When I was expecting my eldest daughter, and even through the first year after her birth, I was adamant about not needing any new friends. My partner, in-laws, the parenting blogs I read, and my own mother all seemed to preach the importance of…
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Combination Feeding Was Not The End Of Me Or My Baby

If someone had told a pre-motherhood me that I'd try combination feeding my baby in a distant future, I probably would've laughed in disbelief — certain that there were no baby bottles or sterilizing equipment in my family's eventual plan. I was 14…
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How I Got Over The Loss Of Dignity During Birth

Before going into labor with my eldest daughter, I had worried about what I assumed would be a loss of dignity during childbirth. I knew that the midwives and doctors around me would hear me scream like I've never screamed before. Chances were…
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TBH, My Body Didn't Feel Like My Own After Giving Birth

When my eldest daughter was born in 2016, I kind of shocked myself. I had been told countless times that pregnancy and motherhood would change my relationships, particularly my relationship with myself. I was warned about the seemingly inevitable…
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Is It Possible To Worry Less As A Mom?

Like so many newborns, my eldest daughter spent most of the daytime hours fast asleep for the first three months of her life. The night was a different story, of course — one marked by near-constant nursing and frequent crying — so, really, I…
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I Gave Myself An Hour Of Me-Time Every Day For A Week & This Is What Happened

Whenever someone asks me what the hardest part of being a mother is, I feel like they want me to talk about the baby poop. Or maybe the infant-induced insomnia. In truth, what I have found most difficult about having two kids under 2 is the lack of…
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I'm A Mom Struggling With Separation Anxiety, & I Know I'm Not Alone

In the time before I became a mother myself, I met a lot of clingy kids. As a babysitter and then a nanny for over a decade, it wasn't unusual for me to spend my time with a child sobbing over their absent parents — seemingly convinced that their…
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She Has A Baby... In A Bar — & We Should Celebrate That

The first time I got kicked out of a bar, I was a college student. I snuck in my own bottle of wine and tried to slyly drink it in the corner, forgetting that I'd never successfully been sly about anything in my life. The second time I got kicked…
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Halloween Has Taught Me, A Plus-Size Woman, A Pretty Valuable Lesson

For much of my life, I felt as though I was always wearing a costume. Ever since my figure began expanding as a pre-teen, I had heard about the so-called "thin girl within:" a version of myself who wore a size 8 instead of an 18. A version of myself…
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Breastfeeding In Public Is Harder Because I'm Fat, & I'm Calling Bull

When my eldest daughter was eight months old, we took the train into the nearest city for little daytime getaway. I nestled into the only available two-person seat, which was adjacent to a young couple. About 15 minutes into our journey, the baby…
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Colic Will Make You Feel Like A Failure — Head's Up

In the week or two after my second baby was born, I couldn't believe how well everything was going. Unlike my first, Elia latched onto my breast minutes after entering the world. She was an amazing feeder all around: there was no struggling, no…
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Many New Moms Experience Self-Critical Thought Loops — Here’s How To Kick Them

In the year after my eldest daughter was born, these were just some of the self-critical thought loops of postpartum depression (PPD) and anxiety (PPA) that I found myself in: I'm not doing enough for my career. I'm stagnating. I'll never work in…
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How I Got Over My Jealousy Of My Friend's Miracle Sleep Baby

"She still doesn't sleep through the night?" It was a simple question, but one that put me on edge immediately nonetheless. "My son has been sleeping through since the 16-week mark. I don't hear a peep out of him most evenings." At the time, my…
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I Couldn't Get An Epidural During Labor, & It Was Just As Bad As I Imagined

Despite being rather accident-prone, I've never been one for pain. At times, stubbing my toe on the dining room table is enough to bring me to tears, as is a particularly bad headache. I'm no more comfortable watching the pain of others, either.…
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The Transition From 1 To 2 Kids Has Been Hella Easier Than From 0 To 1

I would like to say that I was overcome with nothing but joy and wonderment when I found out I was going from one child to two. In truth, the immediate weeks (OK, maybe months) following the news were spent in a perpetual state of panic. I loved…
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'To All The Boys I've Loved Before' Is The Teen Movie We Never Got, That Our Kids Absolutely Deserve

There's a lot that frightens me about raising two daughters, and media consumption is at the top of the list. I wonder what movies and shows my kids will watch, and I wonder what problematic lessons about womanhood, sexuality, friendship, or…
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Why We Need To Resist The "Mommy Wars"

A friend and fellow millennial mom was recently telling me about her experiences with "baby ballet" — that is, a baby and toddler group where children are encouraged to learn 15th century dance from a semi-professional ballerina while Tchaikovsky…
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Dear Maternity Brands: Plus-Size Women Get Pregnant, Too

I have never met an expectant mother who was actively fond of maternity clothes. That is, an expectant mother who felt that the styles out there specifically designed to accommodate her growing baby bump were anything other than fugly. The world of…
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No, Raising "Fat-Positive" Kids Isn't Doing Damage To Them

There are some silly little critiques of fat positivity that tend to surface whenever anyone identifies with the movement in a public way. One clap-back goes something like, "Stop trying to get us all to find big people attractive," as if…
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