Marie Southard Ospina

Marie (otherwise known as Miggle) is a freelance writer and fat acceptance activist. Her loves include: Writing about plus-size fashion and body politics, watching a lot of sci-fi, and listening to ungodly amounts of folk music. When she's not lingering on Bustle, she's probably working on her blog, trying to write her first collection of essays (because #Millennials), or experiencing a rage cycle about Breaking Bad no longer being in her life. As seen discussing body image on Good Morning America and StyleLikeU, with writings on Refinery29, BuzzFeed, Huffington Post, and Volup2.
Recent Articles

Actually, I Had *No* Birth Plan, & It Wasn't The Best Call

I've never been much of a planner. Although I'd love to chock this up to a free spirit and desire to live a life of spontaneity, I'm mostly just indecisive. I struggle to plan because I struggle to make decisions, whether we're talking choice of brea…
By Marie Southard Ospina

If You're Really Pro-Breastfeeding, Then You Need To Support Transgender Moms

Even the best of us can feel a strange kind of heat from other people's parenting decisions. Why? Who knows. The reaction to the news that a transgender woman successfully — in a medically documented capacity — breastfed her child to 6 weeks of age w…
By Marie Southard Ospina

Let's Be Clear, Breastfeeding Is Way Harder When You’re An Introvert

As an introvert, being out among my species can often feel like a struggle. As an introvert who also breastfeeds, the last year of my life has been an especially vulnerable one. I exist primarily within my own head. There are what can sometimes seem …
By Marie Southard Ospina

Moms, The Baby Wearing Shaming Needs To Stop

The expression "damned if you do, damned if you don't" has never felt more relevant to me than during my time as a mother. Fellow parents, and even non-parents, always have an opinion on how best to raise children. Some support co-sleeping, others ch…
By Marie Southard Ospina

Can We All Agree That Moms Make Sh*tty Friends, & That's OK?

During a recent tidying session at home, I came across a dress I had promised to gift my friend. It was a vintage-inspired, outer space-print piece that I loved but never wore. My friend, on the other hand, would wear the hell out of it. I took out m…
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If "Getting Fat" Is The Worst Thing My Daughter Does, I'm A Pretty Damn Good Parent

I couldn't have been older than 10 years old the first time someone told me they'd rather die than be fat. More specifically, that they'd rather die than look like me. My bully was on our small town's pee-wee cheerleading team. Her name was something…
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Megyn Kelly's Weight Loss Hack Isn't Just Stupid, It's Harmful

Few understand the complexities of body image better than moms — after all, they've experienced a radical "total-body transformation" of their own. Finding thoughtful, empowering ways to discuss our bodies, knowing that our children are listening and…
By Marie Southard Ospina

My Postpartum Resolution Isn't "Lose Weight," It's Something Harder & Better

The first month of the year is often a difficult time for me. Like many people, I reign in the New Year with resolutions and aspirations. Far too often, I also set unrealistic goals for myself — things like "become a professional burlesque dancer" or…
By Marie Southard Ospina

I Didn't Think I Needed "Mom Friends," But I Was Wrong

Upon unexpectedly learning that I was going to be a mom, I made a few promises to myself. For starters, I wasn't going to let this baby change me. I wouldn't give up any of my professional aspirations, nor would I exchange my tutus and over-the-top s…
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Actually, There's A Good Reason For Me To Let My Daughter See Me Putting On Makeup

When I think about the lessons I hope to teach my daughter someday, there's a common thread that runs through each of them: choice. I want Luna to know, from as young an age as possible, that she has options; that there is no one set way to be a kid,…
By Marie Southard Ospina

Just Because It's The Holidays Doesn't Mean You Have To Be Around Toxic People

Only one day after Halloween, "Deck The Halls" blasted through the speakers of my local supermarket. The holidays are officially upon us, I thought, as I was reminded that 'tis the season to be jolly. For a lot of us, however, November and December a…
By Marie Southard Ospina

Oh, Now That I've Given Birth You Don't Want To Touch My Magical Belly?

In the last trimester of pregnancy, I found myself completely taken aback. It wasn't the sleepless nights, grueling back pain, or sudden appearance of the linea negra that did it — these things, I expected. What shocked me most was how often people w…
By Marie Southard Ospina

Why I Refuse To Buy Gendered Gifts For My Kid This Holiday Season

Although my 1-year-old daughter is lucky to have a sizable assortment of toys, I can't say that I've frequented actual toy stores very much since her birth. It's not that I have a problem with the baby dolls, miniature monster trucks, kitchen sets, t…
By Marie Southard Ospina

These Are The People Who Made It Possible For Me To Love My Body After Baby

No one said it would be easy. I'd spent the third trimester of my pregnancy tired and pained, incapable of sleeping through a full night. Once my daughter arrived 11 months ago, I was recovering from what was a harrowing, gory ordeal, and any semblan…
By Marie Southard Ospina

Moms Aren't Supposed To Say This, But I So Wish I'd Waited

I used to have an idea of what my twenties would look like. I'd live in New York, where I'd spend my days working in journalism and networking with fancy media types like Meg Ryan did in When Harry Met Sally. On weekends, I'd eat up all that the city…
By Marie Southard Ospina

I Tried LUSH's Sex Bomb & Something Definitely ~Happened~

My father-in-law calls babies "the best birth control out there" and I totally get it. It's not uncommon for couples to have less sex after having children, particularly in the early months of new parenthood. As this has admittedly been the case for …
By Marie Southard Ospina

100 Things I Want For My Daughter In This Sh*tfire Of A World

My daughter may only be 11 months old, but I already spend a lot of time worrying for her future (#momwithanxiety). I wonder whether she will grow up in a society that allows her full autonomy over her body. I wonder whether she'll experience sexual …
By Marie Southard Ospina

My Baby Rolled Off The Bed, & Every Mom Knows The Special Brand Of Guilt That Followed

On one sleep-deprived morning, seeming content with her little baby piano, I placed my 10-month-old daughter Luna in the center of a king-sized bed while I put away some laundry. I was folding a sweater — must have looked away for only a second — whe…
By Marie Southard Ospina

We Need To Talk About The Emotional Labor Of Being A New Mom

Your discharge instructions probably had some stuff about counting wet diapers, nursing on-demand, giving sitz baths a spin, and, generally, responding to your baby when it cries. There was likely a leaflet on the baby blues, and maybe some coupons f…
By Marie Southard Ospina

Please Stop Telling Me To Enjoy My Daughter "While I Can"

Babies can cause a tidal wave of nostalgia in parents of older children. This was certainly the case when my daughter Luna was born last December. It didn't take long before my teary-eyed mom began recounting tales from when my brother and I were sma…
By Marie Southard Ospina