Marie Southard Ospina

Marie (otherwise known as Miggle) is a freelance writer and fat acceptance activist. Her loves include: Writing about plus-size fashion and body politics, watching a lot of sci-fi, and listening to ungodly amounts of folk music. When she's not lingering on Bustle, she's probably working on her blog, trying to write her first collection of essays (because #Millennials), or experiencing a rage cycle about Breaking Bad no longer being in her life. As seen discussing body image on Good Morning America and StyleLikeU, with writings on Refinery29, BuzzFeed, Huffington Post, and Volup2.

Why We Need To Resist The "Mommy Wars"

A friend and fellow millennial mom was recently telling me about her experiences with "baby ballet" — that is, a baby and toddler group where children are encouraged to learn 15th century dance from a semi-professional ballerina while Tchaikovsky…
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Dear Maternity Brands: Plus-Size Women Get Pregnant, Too

I have never met an expectant mother who was actively fond of maternity clothes. That is, an expectant mother who felt that the styles out there specifically designed to accommodate her growing baby bump were anything other than fugly. The world of…
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No, Raising "Fat-Positive" Kids Isn't Doing Damage To Them

There are some silly little critiques of fat positivity that tend to surface whenever anyone identifies with the movement in a public way. One clap-back goes something like, "Stop trying to get us all to find big people attractive," as if…
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No, I'm Not Worried That My Bilingual Toddler Speaks More Spanish Than English

Long before I got pregnant with my first child, I knew that I wanted to raise bilingual children. Although I was brought up primarily in the States, my mom found ways of preserving our Colombian heritage from the moment I was born. This meant…
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What To Do When Someone Asks If You're Pregnant... Or "Just Fat"

For as long as I can remember, my tummy has been a subject of conversation, whether it was flat, wobbly, or assuming the baby bump form. I was a thin kid until age 9 or 10, when sudden weight gain left the adults around me concerned. "This is the…
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There's A Very Good Reason Moms Watch So Many Rom-Coms

"Why are you crying?" a friend asked abruptly as I answered her FaceTime call. I touched my cheek in confusion, not having realized that tears had appeared. "Oh, um, I'm just watching When Harry Met Sally," I told her, feeling sort of guilty and…
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My Kid Is Made Of Chicken Nuggets & She's Fine, OK?

"Why don't you try feeding her something else?" My aunt's pointed question about my picky eater made me cringe as I put a second tray of chicken nuggets in the oven that day. My 17-month-old had already eaten six of these breaded beauties for lunch,…
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This Mother's Day, Ask Your Mom About Her Birth

Almost every time I have found myself in the company of both my mom and daughter, my mother will ask, "Do you get it now?" The question will arise when she catches me smothering Luna in kisses, or watching her sleep. When she sees us laughing…
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Why Is "Mama" The Last Name Your Baby Learns?

There is nothing quite like hearing your baby say "mama" for the first time, or "mommy," "mom," "ma," and any derivative thereof. I still remember when my daughter, Luna, looked up at me with wide eyes and open arms. A crisp "mama!" escaped her tiny…
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Can We Agree That Having "Two Under 2" Is Not A Curse?

I'll never forget the moment I found out I was expecting a second child. After the longest three minutes of my life (at least the longest three minutes of my life since peeing on a stick two years before), the screen on a digital pregnancy test…
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My Vulva Was The Hardest Thing To Love After Pregnancy

Before my daughter was even born, messages around the need to "fix" my body postpartum, to undo the damage, had already begun to sail in from every direction. YouTube videos promised to strengthen my sagging body, Instagram recommended post-baby…
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For Mother's Day, Treat Yourself & Unfollow As Many People As You Like

Every few years, I take some time out of my weekend to cleanse my social media feeds. By cleanse, I mean remove any Facebook friends, or folks I follow on Instagram and Twitter, who have no business being in my life (electronic or otherwise). They…
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Please Stop Labeling My Unborn Baby Before They’re Born

"They already have such different temperaments," my mother-in-law told me recently, referring to my 16-month-old daughter and the 28-week-old fetus in my belly. "This one's so much more active!" While it's true that I've felt this unborn baby's…
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The One Thing Moms Can't Lie About On Social Media

"Why don't you post more couple photos on Instagram?" a friend recently asked over coffee and muffins. "You guys are such a cute family." Although I had never actively thought about it before, something often keeps me from sharing pictures of or…
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Not Planning My Pregnancies Doesn't Make Me A Bad Mother

Long before I got pregnant with my first child, I knew I wanted to be a mother someday. I was that kid who gave their Barbie dolls tiny babies to look after; the teen and 20-something who'd insist on checking out the baby clothes section of Target…
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The Pressure To Worry About The Gap Between Kids Is So Bad For Moms

"Two under two is absolutely crazy," a friend recently told me upon hearing the news that I was expecting a second child. "Why would you do this to yourself? Seriously, why?" However harsh her words, she was only echoing the same feelings I'd been…
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We Need To Talk About Why Moms Hide In The Toilet

On a recent afternoon, I dropped my daughter off for a short session at daycare. She wasn't happy. In fact, I had never, in the 15 months of her existence, seen Luna so distressed. Her face crumpled as chunky tears fell down her cheeks and into her…
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I'm Pregnant & I Refuse To Read Any Parenting Books

I didn't read any parenting books when I was expecting my daughter, and I refuse to read any parenting books as I await my second child now. I'm the first to admit that I don't really know what I'm doing when it comes to raising my daughter. A good…
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I Didn't Follow The Pregnancy Diet Rules & My Daughter Turned Out Just Fine

My diet is an ever-changing and wholly personal thing, which is precisely why I refused to follow any pregnancy diet rules when I was expecting my daughter. For years, I've essentially practiced intuitive eating, in that I listen to my body and eat…
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I Hated My Areolas When I Became A Mom — And I Know I’m Not Alone

Before I knew that I was pregnant with my daughter, I knew that there was something up with my areolas. The light, almost pink rings around my nipples had suddenly grown wider and darker. Now a warm, deep taupe hue, they were foreign to my body. I…
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